Depression and Suicide

A few weeks ago, the topic of depression somehow came up in my psychology class. And you will not believe when I say that my psychology teacher said that depression is a choice. A PSYCHOLOGY teacher said that! I really don’t understand how people don’t understand that depression is not a choice, it’s a mental illness. No one wants to be depressed and you can’t just “get over it”.

And what is up with people using depressed as an alternative to the words sad or upset. You can be sad/upset about something but you are not depressed, you are not mentally ill, unless you actually are. So please please don’t say “i’m so depressed” in everyday conversations. It makes people who are actually suffering feel like their problems are not important enough. It probably makes them feel worse. Talk about depression, but please don’t joke about it. depression is not an feeling but an illness.

And suicide is not something to joke about. And it is not cowardly. It is something you do out of desperation, when you see no way out. Not because you are a coward or not brave enough. It’s not an easy decision for people who decide to kill themselves. They are hurting, they are hurting really bad, and this seem to be the only option left for them. Please don’t treat it as a joke.Please.

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4 thoughts on “Depression and Suicide

  1. Wow, that’s unbelievably upsetting to hear a teacher say that. I can’t believe there are people in the world who believe that people choose to live with depression and other mental health issues. As someone who has experienced anxiety that borders on depression before, that is extremely hurtful AND extremely concerning…especially coming from a teacher.

    I have become increasingly more sensitive to the way people address mental health issues in everyday life since experiencing my own and I agree–suicide should never be treated as a joke. Last year, when I was experiencing very bad anxiety, one of my friends made a really inappropriate comment about suicide (I can’t remember the specific details of it at the moment, but it was inappropriate). I got really upset, and told him so and he was astounded. He hadn’t even realized what he said was so wrong.People don’t understand how serious these topics are and that really needs to change. The way we treat mental health as a whole in society needs to change.

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    • I totally agree with what you are saying. Mental health is such a stigma in society. Either people choose to ignore it or they make ignorant comments about it. If physical health is taken seriously then why can’t mental health be taken seriously? If people just understand that that mental illnesses are REAL ILLNESSES, and not just people “asking for attention” then maybe their approach towards it will change.

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  2. The Right to Feel Bad by Lesley Hazelton (1985) addresses the difference between healthy grieving and clinical depression. I read this book shortly after it was published and it changed my life. One of the most interesting things Ms. Hazelton had to say was that Americans do not know how to be sad. She said we think sadness is an illness, unlike Europeans who know sadness is just a part of life. The book helped me realize grief is normal and it is a process. We grieve over change, even good change. This is why we are nostalgic. She also made the claim that Americans turn ordinary grief into pathology because sadness is not acceptable in our society. Very relevant book for those who are fearful of depression. These days I accept grief, sadness and depression as part of my personality. Just knowing these feelings are ‘normal’ takes a lot of the anxiety out of it. We need to give ourselves permission to be sad when something is sad.

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